If a sitting president threatens to hold government employees hostage and shut down the government for years because the other branches of government won’t give him absolute power, then he should be fucking impeached.
A/N: This one was something I felt I needed to tackle, and it just sort of grew around itself. It isn’t shameful to be hurting, and it isn’t shameful to ask for help. I’ve slowly learned that, still struggle with it, and feel like it’s an important lesson for many people.
Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor… It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them.
Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth, and that’s a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them.
Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness.
Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven’t processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn’t make their behavior acceptable, and it’s okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don’t have to forgive every mistake.
I want you to know that it’s okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision.
Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I’ve ever gone through… it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart’s natural state.
But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health.
I know what it’s like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.
Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.
Thank you thank you thank you bless this post ohmygod thank you
There’s a really, really good book I’m reading right now called Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. It’s about recognizing that what happened between the two of you, the absence of love and security that an emotionally mature parent would provide, isn’t your fault, and learning how to not use extra energy in trying to change them. It’s a very good book and I highly recommend it for people who know that their parents clothed and fed them, but feel emotionally exhausted when it comes to interacting with their parents because unfortunately, not all parents are really grown ups.
@faithtrustandpixiedust95 this is that post I was telling you about. You should look up that book. Also maybe just save and print this post as a reminder ❤
Idk I just felt the sudden urge to address some stuff. Like I scroll through my blog and I just FUCKING LOVE everything that I see. Like everything is so random and all over the place and I probably use tumblr in such an obscure and incorrect manner compared to everyone else (when I reblog, I’m lazy and dont add my own tags cuz idk I dont feel like it, is that bad/weird? Also I will both like and reblog a post that I really enjoy cuz I wanna support the creator as much as I can. I comment, I send random messages to people I dont even know just cuz I wanna complement them on their posts. Why does that seem like such a weird thing to do on here, cuz creators are always complaining about how ppl dont reblog or dont give feedback and I love giving feedback on stuff). Anways, recently Tumblr has become my favorite app.
I get on and I see everything that I’m interested in and things that make me happy and I see cool art and funny memes and posts that I relate to and then I find things I dont know about and look into a lil more and then I am opened up to a whole new interest. My blog is so random and involved in so many fandoms, but it’s not limited to any specific one. Yes there’s Supernatural, Marvel, there’s DC, Batman in his own right cuz he’s my homie, Disney, nature, history, film appreciation, incredible art, How To Train Your Dragon, Voltron, Trollhunters, the Office, Godless, Buster Scruggs, A Court of Thorns and Roses series, Throne of Glass series, Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, Star Wars, Star Trek, Sherlock Holmes (RDJ’s), RED DEAD REDEMPTION 2 (my main jive right now, fucking obsessed. Its probably become annoying how much rdr2 stuff I’ve been reblogging lately but I don’t care), cats, dogs, animals in general. Like anything and everything that I find enjoyable is on my blog and it just makes me happy.
I scroll through and just smile and laugh cuz I see it all and I think “I’m fucking awesome” to myself and I wish I could follow myself haha. I have so many interests and it’s just cool to have a platform to experience all of them on in the same place and in different forms of media. Writing, fanart, animation, gifs, videos, memes, music, literally any form of creativity is shared in one place for a specific interest and it’s great. I love it. Say what you want about tumblr and how its fucked up (and it is sometimes) but it’s a fun app to just be able to enjoy what you like. You dont even have to be social, no one has to know who you are. It’s just about finding content that you like and liking it and reblogging it and maybe someone else will reblog it too and feel the same way about their own blog how I feel about mine.
So yeah, rando word vomit complete.
I honestly just love reading my sister’s run on commentary about her passions. I can really read it in her voice too. ❤
Sometimes I like to keep the author updated on how I’m doing while I’m reading the fic:
Other times I make astute observations:
Then there’s whatever the fuck this is:
Admittedly half of these weird comments are due to the fact that I like to drink wine and read fanfic at 2 AM, but the point is don’t be embarrassed to leave dumbass comments because I 100% guarantee the author will love it regardless.
Speaking as an author, these are the best comments. Quality A+!
I would kill for these kind of comments
These are the best but I also love just getting “I loved this thank you.” or something like that. Just a keyboard smash will do tbh.
I found the company who makes them in case anyone else is interested!
This is why adaptable equipment is important!! Gives more power back to the user to live their life in the best way for them. Unfortunately a lot of times it is cost prohibitive and hard to find- that’s where allies and activists (and #socialworkers #BlackTumblr #BlackTwitter) can help.
Sometimes I like to keep the author updated on how I’m doing while I’m reading the fic:
Other times I make astute observations:
Then there’s whatever the fuck this is:
Admittedly half of these weird comments are due to the fact that I like to drink wine and read fanfic at 2 AM, but the point is don’t be embarrassed to leave dumbass comments because I 100% guarantee the author will love it regardless.
Speaking as an author, these are the best comments. Quality A+!
